{"id":10067,"date":"2017-10-06T16:49:57","date_gmt":"2017-10-06T21:49:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/neriumblog.net\/?p=10067"},"modified":"2023-01-20T15:53:23","modified_gmt":"2023-01-20T21:53:23","slug":"silencing-self-doubt-5-steps-to-overcome-your-insecurities","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.neora.com\/blog\/personal-growth\/silencing-self-doubt-5-steps-to-overcome-your-insecurities\/","title":{"rendered":"Silencing Self-Doubt: 5 Steps to Overcome Your Insecurities"},"content":{"rendered":"

During rare moments of downtime, I find myself reflecting on how different my life and mindset are now compared to 10 years ago. The funny thing is that if I had listened to the voice in my head when I started my career, none of this would ever have become my reality. I struggled for a long time with self-doubt, especially starting out in this business<\/a>. There were so many areas where I felt I might not be \u201cenough.\u201d I\u2019m too young to be taken seriously. I am too inexperienced to be a leader. This list goes on\u2026 Despite working extremely hard these \u201cnot enough\u201d thoughts silenced me into not fully stepping into my role as a leader. I had to learn how to re-write the narrative that was going on in my head.<\/p>\n

If I had succumbed to my self-doubt, I would have given up a decade ago. I would have safely stayed in my comfort zone, too fearful to dream big<\/a> and too fearful to act on my dreams. If there\u2019s one thing I\u2019ve learned over the past decade, it\u2019s this: If you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.<\/p>\n

Climb Your Way to the Top<\/h3>\n

We all have dreams, hopes, and passions. Even though we set goals for ourselves, it\u2019s human nature to doubt the process and to doubt our own ability. You may have heard me say this before, but when your comfort becomes more important to you than your calling, misery is imminent. If self-doubt prevents you from chasing your goals, you\u2019ll never reach the top. The time is now to silence your self-doubt. If you don\u2019t do it for yourself. No one will.<\/p>\n

Push Past Your Comfort Zone<\/h3>\n

One of many lessons my dad taught me is complacency has never lead to the creation of anything. All great moments in life comes after you risk something for them. Taking risks is an essential part of being successful. As if taking risks isn’t stressful enough, critics will likely surface while you’re pursuing your goals. That\u2019s ok. In fact, that\u2019s great! Here\u2019s how I deal with critics: Never let anyone who\u2019s not brave enough to pursue their own dreams, diminish yours.<\/p>\n

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The Danger Zone<\/h3>\n

Here\u2019s the thing: Sometimes, it\u2019s hard to not listen to what critics say. Whenever you hear that voice in your head that tells you that you\u2019re not good enough or you don\u2019t deserve your good fortune, remember, you have a choice to either succumb to the criticism and be silenced or decide that your dreams are too important to be silenced. The decision is yours. Be courageous, and never forget that courage is not the absence of fear but rather courage is the acquired ability to move beyond that fear.<\/p>\n

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Live an Unsilenced Life<\/h3>\n

This is how I see it: You have two choices. Either you stay where you are, and there\u2019s nothing wrong with being content. Or push past your fears and imagine the possibilities that will become available to you. For this reason, I would love to share a few tips<\/a> that have helped me push past my fears and silenced my self-doubt:<\/p>\n

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  1. Identify Silencers:<\/strong> Pay attention to the unproductive and negative self-doubts that appear in your mind. They likely surface when you think about going after a goal or trying something new. Once you\u2019re able to recognize those mental roadblocks, you\u2019ll find it much easier to replace those negative thoughts with positive ones. Think about it this way, if you\u2019re only focusing on your perceived flaws or on what could go wrong in any given situation, it becomes impossible to focus on everything that could go right \u2014 and, that\u2019s where your head must be!<\/li>\n
  2. Overcome Self-Doubt with Positive Affirmations:<\/strong> Use affirmations as a way of reprogramming your mind into believing the stated concept. You see, your subconscious mind doesn\u2019t know the difference between what\u2019s real and what\u2019s not; so, by replacing those negative beliefs with positive stated beliefs you\u2019re consciously and unconsciously learning<\/a> to think in a new way. If you\u2019re worried about getting started, here are a few examples<\/a>.<\/li>\n
  3. Invest in Yourself:<\/strong> Make the time to read 10 pages of a personal growth book a day or listen to 10 minutes of an uplifting podcast. Take the time each day to grow your \u201cbelief muscle\u201d so when you need to use it to push past your fears you\u2019ll be ready.<\/li>\n
  4. Surround Yourself with People You Want to Be Like:<\/strong> You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with the most. Take stock of who those five people are and make sure that they are people who believe in you and lift you up. If you want to have more confidence, surround yourself with confident people.<\/li>\n
  5. Shake the Haters Off:<\/strong> One of the hardest decisions you will make on your success journey is distancing yourself from \u201chaters\u201d and deciding to listen to your calling, not your critics. And here is a fact \u2014 the more success you obtain, the more critics you\u2019ll have. It has to be true, even T-Swift wrote a song about it! \ud83d\ude09<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Remember, people aren\u2019t naturally born gifted leaders. What true leaders do differently is that they move beyond fear because they know their calling is more important than their comfort which is why I\u2019m going to ask you this: since your story is still unwritten and you get to write the ending, share with us how your story will end. Will it end in comfort or in courage?<\/p>\n

    Let\u2019s continue the conversation on a Facebook Live Event this coming Wednesday, October 11, at 4:30 p.m. CST. Visit my Facebook page on the day at the right time and click on the LIVE event displayed at the top of the page or send this link\u00a0http:\/\/bit.ly\/2xDzRx9<\/a>\u00a0to prospects. If you\u2019re sharing the event with a prospect, they must LIKE my page prior to watching us LIVE.<\/em><\/p>\n

    Follow me on social media:\u00a0@AOlsonRourke<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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